So, you want to be a real girl
I am DONE telling myself that it’s not important because it’s all a “construct,” because it won’t “give me happiness,” because it won’t "solve all of my problems."
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Beside those reveries which offer themselves as thought, there are also reveries which wish; and I might add that they are very comforting reveries, very comforting because they prepare a wish. The beauty of the reveries of the will is that they build up our energy and capacity to meet the world in its creation.
— The Power of Daydreaming: Aesthetic Act of New Beginning, Jenny Helin, Matilda Dahl & Pierre Guillet de Monthoux
Hello, sweet Monday everyone, and happy almost-end of the first month of the year. We have a severe weather warning in Napoli today – endless freezing rain and 4pm darkness. The orange trees are shaking like heaven is falling outside. I’m drinking hot espresso at the kitchen table where I have sat down to write this. Adjusting to coffee without a cigarette has not been that tough. I quit cigarettes and alcohol as the year flipped over and I haven’t once wavered. The theme of 2023 is merciless reorganization.
The time for meaningful discomfort is here. I am a sculptor releasing myself of stone. I am a process that requires my full attention and care. I’m using “process” here not because I think that becoming (or embodying) oneself should be guided by a robotic, sterilized understanding of one’s self-concept but to acknowledge the blessed role I play in my own self-actualization; the series of actions/choices that I am taking in order to dig up (elucidate) and bring forth (embody) my particular desired “end.” Whatever that is!
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